Trying2live-Post #4

[Trying2live]

All,
So awesome to hear you are GAL'ing still! About Plan A, My Plan A is only about 7 weeks. They recommend about that for women.

Hey recommend His Needs Her Needs to your bowling friend. Its by Willard Harley as well it just doesn't deal with Infidelity and she may be able to repair the riff in her marriage.

I am glad you are getting out there especially bowling with your friend who had kids. I like that. Kids are cool.

I think for now just get through the 2 books then when you are done and have grasped the concepts decide then your course. I think the most important things are GAL'ing and 180'ing and trying not to Love Bust. As long as you do that it'll give you time to read through the material.

I can hear your confidence building and its great your starting to live and get out there and do things that are fun. Bravo! Once the dance class gets to easy go find a more difficult one!

I think that the most important thing is for all of us to grow and make some minor changes in ourselves if that makes sense? Sometimes we put all this energy into our H's and we neglect ourselves. The part that scares me in this is what if H's come back hypothetically tomorrow and we didn't grow and make changes, it could happen all over again. That's why I have used this time also do the investigating as DR recommends and find out what was it that drew H to OW and what was it he complained about. As hard as it sound ya'll concentrate some of your energies on yourself. GAL, 180, self care etc. The whole darn world is revolving around our spouses so if we take some of that energy towards us they wont even miss it LOL.