1. Be Impeccable With Your Word Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
2. Don't Take Anything Personally Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.
3. Don't Make Assumptions Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
4. Always Do Your Best Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.
This is from a book I highly recommend. It is a short read... those 4 things seem so simple and easy. Try it for a week, it is harder than you think... when resenment lives in your heart it taints every interaction with your Wife and others too. I have been at this for over 2 years and My H is the Man I always dreamed of and I love him now more than ever { I thought my heart would never recoverf from the pain } The one thing I can tell you that is absolutely necessary is for you to let go of the control , be your absolute best. Really take a hard look at yourself and change all th ugliness about you. I had to look very hard and even though some ( most ) of my anger resentment etc was warranted? It was gettng me nowhere. Compassion for yourself and your spouse will also help you to grow. Find your absolute best and treat your spouse that way too.... it works. It will take time but it works.... You cant give up when all seems for not .... baby steps and one day you will reach your Goal. Dont get impatient cause it seems like turtles move faster.... and read and re ~ read Michelles books... they work! All my best... ~Ava
