Trying2live-Post #4

[AllW8SBF]

Thanks hope, ok, that's my goal this week, to change subject and not care what his responses are.
I do think about it, and just usually come here and discuss or vent about it, but that last convo I turned the comment on it's ear - to him so I need not do that.

Now Like I've said, I've got the SAA book 2 things - I didn't take the test because well, I don't know the answers. I don't think I can answer those questions AS/FOR H. Sometimes I think his mood is one way and he wants one thing and the next I'm not so sure what is important to him.
I know he gets mad or irritated annoyed when I act like a little girl. But then the next minute he complains I don't act like a girl/woman.

His family seems to be affectionate physically so I think he needs that, where as mine is verbally affectionate, and I tend to give that more.

So how do I answer the questions if I'm not really sure what he wants/needs? I mean I think it would be pretty easy yes or no questions but they want level of measurement.

And next question - T2L your in Plan A and you set it at I think you said 6 mos and that would be different for different sitch, did you decide that based on your ability to detach while in presence or was the time frame based on something else. Sorry I've just started reading and I'm only to page 63 but that's pretty good and really like that this book and the Prayer book are not really big so I should be able to get through it really quick.

I was thinking I could get through it if I sat in bed, Fri, Sat, and Sun and just read all 3 these books (SAA, TPOAPW, DB) all this weekend because H would be gone and don't need to leave the house (GAL) then, but now I'm being told he may be home cancelling Indianapolis trip - GOD is at work.

Oh guess what I'm doing? Fri night a new meetup started in my area Sex in the City Friends. Now I've NEVER watched that show/movie, not much into it, but they are having their first gathering at Cheeseburger in Paradise, and I'm going!

Oh and I've been doing my dance class and was so Proud, first day and I was picking up the dance soooo much better than I have the past few times. And so I'm going to mention at this gathering if anyone is a part of my gym come on out we can go to class Friday nights and then meet for dinner. It would be a blast.

AND I'm spreading the joys of the Lord. One of the girls I am friends with at work and have been setting up at least a outing for us 1 time a month, (this weekend we are going bowling - they bring their kids - but their good kids) Anyway, her and her husband have a huge rift between them and it's only getting bigger and bigger. I've known her for years and it really is only getting worse. SO before it gets worse I'm praying for her and her marriage, and I did that for all of you last night also. But I'm also getting her to pray and do some of the little things Michelle Weiner Davis says in "A Woman's Guide to Changing her Man", and I'm going to download that book for her for her MP3 player.
I want to help people and prevent them from feeling the pain I have, and like I said she has 2 children and they are adorable. I don't want them to feel the pain your children have.
She's stubborn, and she knows she could live on her own. But we all deserve to be a happy family so hopefully everyones marriage can start anew and be happier than ever imagined on our wedding day.

Have a great day ladies- it's cloudy but the Lord is near and the sun will melt the icky snow and spring will come again.