Good cuz she needs it. He really touched a nerve. I was thinking about checking his thread out cuz I know most people get to that place for some reason. Actually like I said his comment that started it wasn't really that bad, but then she got upset and the personal attacks just weren't right.

Reading what he wrote, kinda reminded me of MIL. That is where she is/was and the things she wrote and said to all of her family for a while were really horrendous. Still angry with her but I do understand that she was in a really bad bad place.

Hope-thanks for the mastering comment. I actually figured that out myself last night. It's on here somewhere. I think in my newcomers patience thread. Maybe it was a pm on the alt. I don't know. Just realized last night that I know so much and do so much (lots of hidden talents you guys don't know about) but I was so busy these last year being a mom that i wasnt' being a good wife. That didn't cause the MLC, but I don't think it helped either. So I need to refocuse myself in that area and learn what counts to him, not what I think counts.

Sounds like you are doing a little of that too. Yes your H is learning, and yes he is projecting, but if the computer bothers him cuz it maybe takes your attention from him, could be a compromise you can make. I'm trying to do that too. He is projecting but he is also telling you what he needs indirectly. That is what this week is about.

If you focus on the past, you ruin the future. You can only live for today.