He is retreating big time...last night marked night #5 on the couch instead of the bed. That just irritates the crap out of me, it goes back to living in KC when he was having the "A", he would go down and sleep in the basement which drove me crazy, like he was down there talking to her on the phone all night or something....
I don't worry about him doing that now, I was out in the living room folding laundry and watching a movie until midnight and he was just sleeping away on the couch, no funny business. But I did backslide a bit...I told him his headache would be worse from sleeping on the couch instead of in bed. He replied, "I am coming to bed in a minute..." An hour later the movie was over he was still asleep on the couch, I said I was going to bed, he said he'd be in, "In a minute"...I asked if he would rather just sleep on the couch than sleep with me (dumb), he said no, he was coming...
Actually this isn't new, we both over the years have had times we fall asleep on the couch and the other person hounds us to come to bed. H used to do it to me, but once I was asleep and 'comfortable' it was hard to get up and go to bed...but I guess b/c it was the fifth night in a row, I let it get to me. He did come to bed about 1:00, then I felt dumb for pushing him so I just rolled over and pretended I was asleep...all I can do is let it go, leave it alone...if it happens again tonight I will just leave him on the couch and go to bed, I need to avoid that cheeseless tunnel. Just makes me sound irritating, I am sure. On the bright side, when H is asleep he almost never remembers conversations he has so maybe he doesn't remember my nagging...
New day, new opportunities....I imagine that if his dad gets bad news at the oncologist tomorrow, he may retreat even more. Who knows. I will just focus on today...
