Understood. Another issue that many of us have here (including me at one point)..is fear of doing what is 'right'...i.e. defining boundaries...out of fear of pissing them off and 'ruining a chance at reconciliation.'

Hogwash.

Although you don't want to enter into arguments or be dragged into one, you MUST protect your boundaries...your N.U.T.S.

Personally, I think that what your W is doing is a major infraction, one that needs intervention. She is married...she has a daughter...and is with a stranger.

No good.

JMO.
FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;