Things are settling down...not sure that's good!

[marriedCrazy]

I off today, getting things done (yea, right) while the kids are at school. Going to see the W's grandfather today. In the past he has bought the kids savings bonds for Christmas. In light of the sitch, he wants to start putting them in my name instead of the W's.

[Little Engine]

I'll agree with mC. Don't bail out H. He wanted the D, he can accept responsibility for his actions. He knows you are out Friday afternoon, so let him take care of getting back on time to get the boys.

I guess his stuff is not in my way, and I don't want him to feel like I'm forcing him out, but do you think by not pushing the issue he thinks I'm being wimpy?

What if you pack H's things and carry them out to the garage? Are you going to let H go through the house unsupervised while you are gone with the boys Thanksgiving? Is it possible H will take stuff you want to keep? If you get his stuff out of the house, you can debate over what he wants and you want. Easier to keep something you want than to get it back once it is already gone. With that you could also consider changing the locks before you leave for the holiday.

[TxMomw/2girls]

Amy,,,, I still can't find you on FB.... help - I gave you my name on old thread...

also how do I post and paste my old thread into my new ones??? can't figure it out..

You answered your own question... don't make this so easy on him.. I've been doing the same. Don't offer to help him out unless he ask for help .... let him figure it out but us MOM's always want to come to the rescue... Also, as long as you are protected financially then wait for the D thing... I might have to file soon b/c in Texas we aren't protected unless you file...

hang tight

[Work2do]

Hey Amy, glad things have settled down for you. I stop by and check in. Glad your doing well for yourself for the most part. And more power too you. I've been in the alt universe.

My sitch hasn't changed. I'm doing good though.

Cheers!

[Amy M]

TxMom...looked and looked and still can't find you either! I'll keep trying!!!

Saw H at S6's game. He was friendly...not flirty like Saturday. My mom and dad were there. they are so great. 1st time they've seen him since they learned about the A. Dad shook his hand and said "good to see you." Mom hugged him and called him "Honey." She's like that with everybody. I know that had to make him feel better.

We walked to the field together. He helped set up the chairs. We stood together whole game. Our kid's the star of the team...he's a little older than the others and loves the sport, so, he really tries harder than the other kids.

I did circulate a little to talk to other moms, but mostly stood there with H. H talked about work. We talked about my run this weekend. We talked about S6's birthday party. He was kind of grumpy...I teased him about it. He said, "He'd be better if he could get his people at work to do what he needs them to." I don't know if he meant OW or not, but could be trouble in paradise! By the end we were joking and laughing a little.

He walked us to the car again. Hugged the boys and was off.

I'm still being too friendly. But, what can I say??? I guess after I decided it didn't matter what I did until OW was out of the picture, I decided just to be myself. I was fine. Not upset about it...fine really! As long as I'm okay about it, I don't see a problem. If/when OW's out of the picture maybe then I'll try another approach.

He did say at one point that he'd decided how to divide his assets. He said, "So, here's what I'm gonna do. If something happens to me, each of the boys will get 25% of my business assets, and the other will go to...well, you, right now." I said, "Well, did you write that down somewhere." He said, "No, but I'm gonna." I guess he did get worried that if he married her she'd get it all and his boys would be without. Interesting. Still no talk about the settlement or the D. So, we'll see.

Hope everyone else had a good day. I got distracted tonight and didn't get around to check on everyone. I'll do that tomorrow morning!

Love to all!
Amy

[Amy M]

W2D,

Wonder how I can find you there? I'm not very good at it, that's for sure!!

Good to hear that you are doing good. Stop in to visit occasionally, okay?

Hugs1
Amy

[marriedCrazy]

You got distracted..by what may I ask?

I still think you're being too friendly. I know that you feel it's right for you; but being that available might not make miss you enough to want to come back.

Just my $.02

[Amy M]

Well, I'll take your $0.02 with a grain of salt! I've decided you might not be the best judge of character!!! Just kidding!!!!

Seriously, MC, I know you are right. But, it's so hard not be friendly when I see him. I'll start trying to be a little more conscious of it. That's the first step, right? Recognizing you have a problem! I did recognize last night. Even as I was doing it...standing there smiling...telling him about the boys trip to Auburn. Oh, well! Pretty soon football season will be over, and we'll have less and less interaction...that will be easier.

Talk to you later!
Amy

[jame38]

Hello amy, just wanted to drop in and say hi, hope u have a wonderful day. Hang in there i know, im to nice alot of the time.

[kelaaron]

Amy,

MLC, they are cool. Not really scary and a lot of funnies. Dealing with the alien, you have to learn to find the funny.

You know, I don't usually pray about sleep, i kinda like my insomnia, but a few nights last month, i was just wiped and I did pray about sleep. Best nights I've had in a long time.

I'm doing pretty good. Someone has been making me thing a LOT and it's been really good for me. To talk like a human about whatever and then suddenly, the answer is there, when you aren't even thinking about it. Yea I kinda post all over. Only really go to mine anymore if I just need to journal. Otherwise I hunt my friends down where ever they are.

I'll look for you on Facebook. Getting any colder there yet? it's been in the low 70's here during the day.