I am praying for you. I one thing I have found out about offering an invitation to my W, I try not to have any expectations. I mean I try very hard not let my W see my disappointment when she turns me down. I try to have a frame of mind that If she does not want to do something with me I am going to do it regardless lf she goes are not.
If you do not have any expectations you will not be so disappointed when H turns you down. I hope I am making since. Be caviler about his answer. You may be really disappointed, but do not show it.
I know it's hard on you. I have the same problem. I want to show my W how I have changed for the better. Like you I have come such along way in the 5 months. I like the new me. I want to share the new me with W. But I have also found that she has not been working as hard on her problems as I have. I am light-years ahead of her on this issue. We have recognized that we have problems and want to fix it. Our respective spouses have not realized or have not spent the time fixing them selves like us. We are much better for it and we have to share our newfound patients and understand with our spouses. Because we have learned so much about ourselves and made the required changes to make us better, we need now to help our spouse achieve the same level of self-interruption and help them repair themselves.
This maybe overly optimistic, but what else do we have to do. We are the strong ones. If we do not work toward the goal they will not by them selves. So what do we have to loose?
Do not have any expectations about the answer you get from H .
Take care! Keep Your Eye on the Green. Let know how things go Thursday.
