GFI, thanks for stopping by my thread. I am going to sound like dear "transformer" here, but if you havent yet, get and read Passionate Marriage. As "T" says, the title is missleading. I thought of it when you talked about your older brother dying and you keeping things to yourself not to burden your parents...Things like that are explained in the book and at least for me is very interesting (and I dont actually get the language very well) I believe it could be an eye opener for native speakers like yourself... Take care K
