I don't think you're fooling yourself at all. I think it's part faking it till we make it, part getting an attitude of gratitude which eventually overtakes negative attitudes, and part--altering our brain chemistry, changing our "energy" so that it attracts positives instead of negatives. Yep, sometimes it requires a Herculean effort. I know well that "no one cares if or when I come home" blackness--it is horrible. Sucks the positive right out of you, doesn't it?

And yet, you keep going, keep at it, keep your priorities straight. Doesn't much matter how you do it--you do it. And knowing how much effort it takes--that's just inspiring. Makes me feel bad for not doing the same. And that's not a bad thing.


M60
H52
D20
M14 yrs
OW-old gf from 1986
bomb-5/18/08
H filed for D-9/10/08
D final 4/24/09
xH remarried (not OW) 2012