could you point me to some of your posts regarding the resentment?
Dugin - Sorry I missed your post asking about where in my thread I talk about getting past resentment. Here's a post to get you started. You can read a few posts below it where I repaired a vanity of my wife's and wrote her a letter about what it meant for me/us to repair it for her.
Like you I would get very angry and until I read SSM. I never realized how much of my anger was from resenting her for not seeming to care. Now I know she never realized that I was hurting so much inside from being rejected over and over. She did not know until I told her. To be rejected like that felt like she no longer loved me.
Unless we tell them how we are hurting inside, make them understand that we want to touch and be touched, they won't know. It all starts with showing them affection instead of anger.
