I'm sorry, Sugar. He's abusive. You need to only talk to him when you have to (kid related). That's it. You can tell him you will work on the marriage and will talk to him ONLY in a marriage counselor's office. He can't do it on his own and is showing you no change in behavior. Be ready because when he comes crying, etc. you need to say, "I will talk to you at our counseling meeting. Let me know what day you make it. I will be there."
