well sol it's been a few days, since my last post and apparently you have a crystal ball or something, this new chick is not someone that would care for me or my kids, she made this apparently clear this weekend. She started makin out with some stranger at the bar while we were there together, and then just said it was "all in fun" WTF!!!! well anyways we won't be needing to worry bout that sitch any longer, I think I'm starting to lose my faith in women, or at least I'm not attracting the right ones for some reason, I feel like such a clod getting sucked into that kind of sitch, but it goes back to what you said, My self esteem has kind of been on a rollercoaster, this just goes to show me that I need more time to become the person I used to be, Minus the bad of course,lol In a weird way this new calamity that happened took my mind off XW, it's been a few days and she hasn't entered my mind at all. Oh don't worry I'm not ready for this yet, but I am curious when the time is right, I live in a really small town, pop 700, what are some options for meeting someone? all my friends are married and their wives don't really have any single friends. any suggestions???