Originally Posted By: Sugar and Spice
This is what I don't get...he doesn't HAVE to go. This is totally avoidable.


Of course he doesn't have to go. He doesn't HAVE to be with some OW other than his W either, but he chooses to be. He's a mess. There's no fixing him - he's got to do that himself. There's no use in trying to figure him out either. It will just drive anyone crazy.

I wonder if H would even start to have one ounce of respect for you if you stopped being available to him altogether. Simply sticking around to be his friend looks like it's doing the sitch no good. I think he treats you and talks to you the way he does because he knows he can get away with it, so he does it over and over again. He has had to face no real consequences.

But *sigh*....easier said than done.

Last edited by GoingForward; 11/12/08 01:26 AM.
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