Can't I Take Away All This Pain

[Sugar and Spice]

He lost his paycheck again and is in deep doo-doo with the Troll, too.

This is what I don't get...he doesn't HAVE to go. This is totally avoidable. If he wants his life to be smooth sailing, he should just stay home. If he doesn't want drama, then why not just leave me out of it? I realize he needs someone to blame, but what was I supposed to do? I'm not going to preach to him, but I'm also not going to be excited when he can't even come up with $55.00 and its just him. I will pay the $55.00, but I'm having to scrape by as it is. Its just frustrating to hear him justify it to himself and blame me because he continues to make bad choices.

I think a lot of it has to do with their blow up. He is mad and it is so much easier to let it go on you because for some strange reason he thinks you are going to stick around.

Their blow up is easily remidied.

He just called again and started a fight and tried to blame it on me. My pool pump isn't working and his response to that is, "Well sounds like your having a great day and don't want to talk so I'll let you go." WTF did you call for then? Just to fight? I can't be waiting by the damn phone with a smile plastered on my face waiting for you to grace me with your presence...jesus, get over yourself. So I sent him a text just now that reads: Don't put your BS on me. I didn't do or say anything to you smart a$$ or otherwise. If you want to be mad, at least be honest with yourself why. The response I got was:
I WON'T MAKE A COMMENT ABOUT THAT!. So I replied: OK and now I'm going back outside.

He is gaslighting and I DON'T appreciate it.