Hi Faith,glad we can support. It is always a 2 way street. we really help each other. Your H went to church. Some kind of light is starting to come on. baby steps. Try to carry a conversation but only ask leading questions that will not think you are pursuing him. Don't they have high opinions of themselves.
T2L, I have not been sending any texts or anything. I have not seen H since Friday - 4 days with nc. I have been trying to detach since I find it hard not to get emotional around him. Also it is hard to make light conversation with D15 not speaking to him. Do you think I should try and open up the lines of communication with him or just keep back and see what happens?
All, glad you are reading books and going to DB coach. I agree with the coach about you do not have to decide today what to do with the holidays. One day at a time. I still do not know if H is coming for thanksgiving and I am not going to worry about it. You need to stop the R talk, your H cannot force you to talk about it. detach from it. You are still basing all of your thoughts and actions on what says. Make yourself less available. As for H saying he can't wait for you to figure yourself out and that he didn't think you want the M, just say once you know my feelings on the M and then change the subject. You need to step back from his feelings and work on yours. I know that when my H speaks to me I am always looking for signs and I know for now I have to step back otherwise I get too caught up in his craziness. Does that make sense? take care
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
