Hi Jay
Sorry to see you here, but you will find lots of good advices and supports from folks here.
Your DBing is working for you in a positive direction.
You don't have to ask her "how are we doing?". She will show you with her action, like that hug. Don't even say anything about your R or your changes unless your W brings it up first.
Please be patient and keep working on yourself.
I think try treating your W as a good friend should be a good starting point.
Keep on DBing...you can do this.

NW626


Me:33 STBXW:38 S:3
It's not whether you win or lose, it's how you fight the fight....!!