Onward and Upward - Part 8!

[glamgirl]

H came over on Sunday. He said he was going to be there around 11ish and it ended up being closer to 1pm. I just let that slide. This is one area that bothers me, but I have gone over this more than once and even addressed in c.

H made us dinner and then we took the kids out to have haircuts. Overall is was a nice day.

Not to the real story:

H was here on Monday. Showed up when he was suppose to, so that was all good. Later in the evening he wanted to go and pick up some things at the store.

I wasn't feeling well to begin with, but wanted to pick up some cold medicine. It was payday for h and he had promised 2 weeks ago and then again a week ago that he would be giving me a set amount that he had agreed upon.

Well that didn't happen. He offered to give me a 1/4 of the amount that he said. Then he launched into I had to pay some friends back that really helped me out. Ok that got underneath my skin. Like I haven't been the one helping him out.

Then he launced into I have to pay MY rent. Oh and I don't have a mortgage to pay, HOA, electric bill, water bill, gas bill, daycare, the list is endless. I felt as if his needs come first. Like I am way on the bottom of the money chain.

I know I came off bitchy and such, but give me a break. He promised. Then he launched into I told you that my expense check was going to be late. Yes, he did say that, but he never acknowledged to me that he wouldn't be giving me the agreed amount of money this Monday. He said I should have asked. What?

Ok so I did show some sarcasm. He also launched into how much he has given me over the past month. Which he has, but what happens is he asks for much of it back and I graciously have given it back, so it puts me in NO better financial situation than when he wasn't giving me anything.

I did say that he could review my bank account and see what I was paying. He didn't take me up on it. He quickly ended the convo and said all I can give you is $100 more than what he first quoted me. I said that is fine h, pay me what you can, but please don't ask me to give any of it back to you.

Then we drove to the bank and he gave me half of the pre-set amount and said from now on he would be giving me this amount every time he gets paid and then some extra for gifts. I handed him back $100 and said if you really need it take it. He said no. I said are you sure. He said yes.

Ok so h ended up giving me half of what he promised. Better than none. I am disappointed on how I handled this. I am sure that I am still acting like I have from the past, but it the money thing really bothers me.

Since h is choosing to live elsewhere then he should at least put his family first and make that a priority when he gets paid, not like we are the last one that gets paid and only on what he has left over. To me that is NOT right.

This was a real struggle for me last night. Any thoughts on how I could do better?