I had read Newmans book too.... nice reminder so thanks for typing all this up again.
Yeah I know for my H it is emotional needs that he wasn't getting (remember pregnant and just had baby) hard to focus on H as much during this time ... but I do believe it has a lot more to do with the straying spouse and his own issues, not loving himself,etc... than it is about what he didn't get from marriage and throw a possible MLC or depression in the mix... but definitely think you can take steps to affair proof your marriage... hind sight 20/20 right..
We hung out with all married couples and all or most of all of his friends are married too... but he met this girl through work and my H's line of business puts him situations that could be dangerous if vulerable... and sure enough.
Today I really feel good and moving on.. I will continue to grieve my old husband and our relationship and future we won't have.... and to your point if he comes back, and is saved by the good lord, then we'll see but definitely not counting on it.. I will stop all talks - I hope at least - of OW and R because it only hurts that he has moved on so quick in his mind...
I feel like I might need to move on toward filing to protect me and kids... although I'm praying about it and going to sit on it this week.. but I want to be protected financially and he is starting to spend quite a bit.
Me: 38/H:40 M:7yrs TG: 10yrs 2Girls: 4yr & 7 month old Bomb 8/22/08 OW/EA/PA 8/23/08 with 25yr old Moved out 9/22/08
