My wife has said almost those same exact words! Good husband, father, even the "not in love feelings".
54, Like Pup said and I agree wholeheartedly, it's a very personal choice. I would never question someone who chooses one way or another on whether to tell the kids or not.
To your quote above...UH...do waywards really think they'll ever have loving feelings for their spouse while giving all of their self to another?
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.