My kids are older. I would not have told them if they were not emotionally (and physically) adults. But like I said, they already KNEW so my telling them was just validating that THEY weren't nuts.
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.
My wife has said almost those same exact words! Good husband, father, even the "not in love feelings".
54, Like Pup said and I agree wholeheartedly, it's a very personal choice. I would never question someone who chooses one way or another on whether to tell the kids or not.
To your quote above...UH...do waywards really think they'll ever have loving feelings for their spouse while giving all of their self to another?
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.
my kids are older, 12 13 an 16 they figured it out before I did, so they know. and I have no regrets that they do!! kids know alot more than we give them credit for really!
HUGS LIS!!
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
Both of my daughters knew already, and my son suspected. In fact, my D18 had even witnessed her mother leaving a sports bar with the OM, and was torn on how to tell her daddy!!! It broke my heart when I heard she'd been carrying that burden for several weeks.
54, I haven't read your sitch, but I will, but from your signature it says your W came home "just for the kids". I wouldn't discount that. When I told my kids what was going on, my W tried to lay a guilt trip on S16 by saying (after he was ripping her to shreds) "I guess I'll just be a lonely old woman then". She then told me a day later that she would stay around and try "for the kids". Not what you want to hear, but still an opportunity. If you can take it, it gives the opportunity to show her just what she'll be missing and losing and also to work on you with her as a front row observer.
Sorry for the hijack Lost.
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
Just checking to see if things went sideways today, glad they didn't but the suspense is killing me.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
