That's what I am doing the most. I keep in mind the most important principles of DB and then try different things to see what effect it has. For example, going really dark doesn't work in my sitch. (It also would be almost impossible to do becasue of the boys) I think it's because I have been ignoring her in the years I was depressed and that's how she got where she's now. For the most, I am just trying to let her do what she feels like doing. I DO extend invitations to join me and our children to do stuff or come over for dinner or just to hang out and watch TV. The hard part is not to feel rejected when she declines, but I am getting better at it!!
I am feeling better lately with all the babysteps that are coming. Thanks for checking in on me!
