MC, I think my W thinks the same way. If I ask where she is going or where she was she feels like I'm controlling what she's doing. Perfect example. One time in the middle of her affair (before I knew for sure it was going on) I told her it would make me uncomfortable if she went out after work with OM only. I didn't have a problem if it was a group thing, but if everyone left except OM I would expect her to leave also because I think it's inappropriate for married men and women to have drinks like that alone. She said she hated how controlling I was because there was noting going on and she could be friends with a man if she wanted to. Now I know that was probably just the affair talking, but it's one of her gaslighting tactics to get me to back off.
That's the exact script my W has spout out before.
