Is this worth saving, or am I only fooling myself?

[Dash]

I personally wouldn't go the route you had planned as it removes from Love Bank (SAA book) and If your still wanting the marriage at this point further damage would need to be controlled. I am in no means saying you should be a door mat at her beckon call either. I am a firm believer there is always a way to answer even if the answer needs to be firm. Were you able to get SAA yet? It explains so much!

Anyways that 's just my 2cents may not be worth much.

Thanks T2L,

I didn't actually send the message. In fact, I haven't responded at all. I tend to want to be a hard*ss though, just because she's still taken no responsibility for any of our situation and she used to complain about my kids (from my previous marriage) contacting me "only when they wanted something".

I hate to ignore her altogether, but at the same time I can't be her doormat and jump when she says jump.

I keep thinking she's the one that did this, not me. Yes I have my share, but I have been working on that and I have accepted it. There needs to be a line in the sand someplace that says "I won't go past here."

If I don't do it, she'll be po'ed. I can understand that. If I do it, then I'm showing her she can always count on me when she has a need. She made the decision for both of us that I'm no longer that person.

It's a quandary to say the least. My guess is she's broke and doesn't have the money to pay for new lenses even though I gave her money on Saturday.

But should I really be the one to come to her rescue? As I said, it was her decision to remove herself from our marriage, not mine. Why should I be the "go to guy" when she needs something?

After all, according to her this split isn't about the OM, she hasn't even really acknowledged that he exists, according to her it's about her independence. So maybe the best thing to do is act like I didn't get the TM and let her see how independent she can be.