Just think! He has to defend his bullsh!t and lies. Trust me, trust me, trust me. Brain chemicals aside...he has no leg to stand on. He CANNOT win.
Breakaway, I think you HIGHLY underestimate the sheer addictive pull of PEAs (brain "love" chemicals). Research them. It's more addictive than cocaine, even. It's what made an otherwise sane, intelligent adult female astraunaut drive across country wearing an adult diaper, so she wouldn't have to stop for bathroom breaks, so she could go avenge her man a little bit sooner.
Can it (reconciliation, without no-contact) be done? Sure. But it's 25x harder. It just makes sense to me, those that take the approach of "the first thing you have to do is separate the addict from the source of their addiction."
Q: How many times does the cockroach appear to be the better choice at the time, and only later does one say "OMG, what was I thinking -- he was a cockroach!!!"
