Trying2live-Post #4

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Faith, very good in meeting the Admiration need! Keep it up. Find ways to meet it as much as possible and the other 4 as well.

Its really easy once your heart follows. I send texts emails and stuff. Be creative and look for all areas you may be able to meet AD needs...parenting, provision, work ethic, conversation, humor etc. there are so many ways.
Some I've done are: thanks so much for providing for us and loving us that way even though you live with OW you have kept your word I admire you for that, Thanks so much for fixing the my brakes on the truck they work so great now I noticed it as soon as I drove the car, your awesome, thank you for taking the time to spend the day with us and all the drive time it took for you to get here what a great sacrifice you gave to us were grateful, it was great talking with you about politics yesterday I love the fact that we both have the same views and your such a deep thinker and not shallow etc etc etc get the idea?? LOL

Sometimes H sends me texts saying its a beautiful day and i send a text back saying, ya know it is a beautiful day, I love that about you, your just like me you can enjoy the beauty of a gorgeous day. See you can find all kinds of places if you start being creative. But don't neglect his other 4 needs too. Like my H has a need for conversation, he had said in the past that I didn't listen so now when he talks i listen intently and he also has a high domestic need so when he visits I prepare elaborate meals, the house is clean and candles lit providing a cozy domestic environment.

Sounds like your on the right track. Start to laugh and joke too it really helps. Make eye contact as much as possible. Your doing great. If you can get the book get it so you can make sure you don't commit any Love busters too.

Sounds good that H made that date with step dad. But remember, have hope nut NO EXPECTATIONS this will keep you protected from being hurt, trust me on this one.