SD...I feel your pain. Although what you wrote is written from the heart and reveals your feelings about your W and the destruction of your M, it is not helpful to her. You see...they don't see it that way. She MAY read that letter as 'your a bad person; you did it all wrong; your actions are wrong and hurting everyone around you; etc.

Is it true in reality? IMO, yes. How she reads and hears this...totally different story.

I think you are right in defining your borders with regards to strangers under the same roof that your daughter is sleeping under.

You have a difficult decision. Don't you have an obligation to your daughter NOT to let this go? SHOULD you have a LAW GUARDIAN INVOLVED? Think hard about this.

I know your pain SD. These S's don't have a lightening bolt hit them and suddenly they are back loving us. Whereas we think of this as the destruction of and losing a family...they think of it as losing a H and one that doesn't turn them on anymore.

Continue to detach and think about the safety of your D.
FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;