Maybe I should be in piecing part 2?

[Hope4us]

I agree Pup. But she hasn't done any of this since OM left town and since I told the kids. In fact, after the first week in Dec last year, I'm virtually certain she hasn't seen him. The couple times it was possible back in Jan/Feb/Mar she was giddy before I left town and then PISSED when I got back so I'm pretty sure OM didn't show up like she wanted him to. Plus, why spend $200 on gas driving up here when he's got a new GF in the town he lives in now?

I do think she's doing her best to be transparent with me. When we're sitting there at night and she gets a text she'll tell me who it was and what they were talking about. When she's made plans to do something like dinner with a GF or shopping she's not gone long and either returns with leftovers or items she's purchased. She tells me all about her day, tells me who she talked to etc all without my asking, so I think she's doing her best to reassure me.

But I'll remember this if the situation ever comes up in the future.