Ok, but give her a chance to make the right choice before exposing to the kids......Ask her for no contact and set requirements to work on the marriage first. Give her a chance first.
WDID, that sounds good, in theory, but here's the problem that I have seen with it in practice:
When you give a wayward spouse a deadline (or when you let them know what YOUR deadline is), they will typically remain wayward right up until the last moment, and then they will say or promise ANYTHING to get you to back down. Also, once you threaten to expose, they will usually SELF-expose, and spin it (pronounced "LIE") in such a way to make the betrayed spouse out to be the bad guy.
I'm sorry, I know I'm generalizing, and Breakaway's gonna come and slap me silly, but that's just been my experience. There are certainly pro's and con's to exposure, but once one DOES decide to expose, I think it should be done without warning, for the reasons stated above.
