Mountainman-finally moved to surviving!

[mountainman]

thanks for the advice Cat. I actually had a curve ball thrown at me today that I think I handled well. This is in regards to our agreement. The state calculates child support but I want to pay half of that to daycare and the other half to her, for a number of reasons. she wants the whole amount to go to her so that she can get a loan and I told her no way. So it looks like we will compromise in that we will put in the order that i will pay her X amount, but we will make a written agreement on the side that I pay the way that I want to. I know, you guys are all going to warn me about trusting her etc. etc, but I think it will work out ok.
We also met with a mortgage friend who went over options. basically, there is no way she can take over the house on her own now, so my name will stay on it for hopefully no more than a year or 2. I feel like i keep giving and giving and she keeps feeling that she isnt getting enough. if you guys knew how much I was paying in child support, you would be blown away. Basically, I could buy a REALLY nice brand new car every year with what I am paying her.
All in all, this chit is crazy. We have our final meeting with the mediator next friday, then paperwork should start. she is planning on filing in court on friday. We talked today on the way to the mortgage guy and she just started going on and on about how much she wants me out of the house and how much better life will be when I am gone. I got a bit bothered by it but just let it slide off my back, none of it was surprising.

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