Puppy, I'm not going to push any of this until she is ready. I told her a couple months ago I wouldn't bring the A up again until she was ready to talk about it. It has to happen sometime, but until she's ready or I've had enough, I'll give her the time she needs.
H4U,
Perhaps you misunderstood me. I didn't mean to INITIATE this conversation; I'm just saying that when you DO have it, I do think that 100% no-contact and transparency needs to be a condition of the reconciliation, or it should be a dealbreaker. At least it would be (and it indeed was) to me.
I'm just saying that until she IS ready to talk about this stuff, don't send off the vibe that it's going to take "A,B,C,D, and all the way up to L or even Z" to make your marriage work.
