Stillhope - You read my mind. I was about to suggest that you start a thread here in SSM. I 'm glad to see that you started one all by yourself.
Originally Posted By: Stillhope
This morning she says "you need to come up earlier" Hint hint.
This is key, my wife and I got into that avoidance habit of not going to bed at the same time. If one or the other of us was already asleep then I wouldn't have to deal with being rejected once again and she wouldn't have to deal with turning me down over and over. The problem is, if you avoid one another, how will anything ever happen?
So what do I do now? When I see she is going to bed, I go to bed too. If I want to go to bed a little earlier, I ask nicely, "Why don't you come to bed now sweetheart?" Does something exciting happen every time we lay down together? No. It does maximize the chances of something happening though. It also gives us a chance for just a caress or a goodnight kiss or to say something nice that can be whispered in her ear. Sometimes I get a back rub and sometimes I give her one. You get the idea.
All of these things bring us closer together. It all starts with making it important for bedtime to be something that you two do together. No expectations, just something that feels nice. Your wife told you this is something that she wants... now start doing it. Maybe she is just missing those simple intimate things that can be done while laying there about to go to sleep. No pressure just simple affection.
I have a nice report about last night I'll post over on my thread. It happened because I went to bed when she went to bed, I'm really glad that I did too.
