Good points...I think the word "transparent" is tricky however. I know what you're saying. But she has to feel very very very safe to feel like she can be transparent. No one is really transparent, we all protect some part of ourselves. I guess that word kind of connotes "exposed" to me. But that's just me.
I only meant in the context of a no-contact/transparency plan -- not everything in her life. H4U needs to know, for example, that she's not IMing him at work every day, or she'll never fully get over the guy and be open to H4U emotionally.
Oh, right. I knew you meant it that way. I was just cautioning maybe using that particular word with her, because it might make her feel panicky. Unfortunately for those of us in these situations, where our feelings are all raw (both sides), and so much is at stake, every word counts as we work towards what we want. I look forward to days when it doesn't so much!
