Things are settling down...not sure that's good!

[Little Engine]

I'll agree with mC. Don't bail out H. He wanted the D, he can accept responsibility for his actions. He knows you are out Friday afternoon, so let him take care of getting back on time to get the boys.

I guess his stuff is not in my way, and I don't want him to feel like I'm forcing him out, but do you think by not pushing the issue he thinks I'm being wimpy?

What if you pack H's things and carry them out to the garage? Are you going to let H go through the house unsupervised while you are gone with the boys Thanksgiving? Is it possible H will take stuff you want to keep? If you get his stuff out of the house, you can debate over what he wants and you want. Easier to keep something you want than to get it back once it is already gone. With that you could also consider changing the locks before you leave for the holiday.