Positive developments? #2

[jon2911]

OK, I need some DBing help!

The weekend was good, and I left knowing I wouldn't see W for quite some time, with the two weddings she's in this month. We've been talking more, and she says she wants to spend Thanksgiving together! I'm very surprised, but she says she's tired of her family. I looked into booking a cruise, but it looks like we'll go camping instead. Yay!

W called in the middle of the wedding craziness to ask for financial help. She even gave me her account password to do the transfer. I glanced quickly at her account to make sure no further charges are coming, and was very relieved to see that she has no NSF's in the last several months. Talking with my recovery sponsor, he said that the account thing was huge, and that I needed to thank her for trusting me. Here's what I wrote:

W,
I want to tell you how much I respect that you trusted me with your account password. I want you to know that I won't go snooping through your account. I won't be accessing it again, and I understand if you want to change your password.

This may not have been a big deal to you, and I'm not reading too much into it, but I appreciated it nonetheless. Can't wait to have a thanksgiving with you away from my crazy family!


Jon

Jon,
thank you for being a lifesaver to me today. The emails you have sent were so kind, I appreciate that. By the way, you get 200 points for almost planning a cruise! I would really like to come up there & camp around lake palestine or RHubbard. Although, it may be warmer down here.

Are you missing me more than usual? It feels like it, just wondering, no judgment. FIL is now possibly coming to the wedding, everyone is upset & on edge about the flip-flopping that has been going on. I'm pissed, of course.

I hope you have a fun weekend w/ all the canoe & truck stuff.

W

In the end, W and SIL told FIL not to come. About freakin' time! The wedding went very well without him.

How should I answer the "missing me" question? She called last night while I was out for drinks, darts and football, and said she was lonely. I told her I miss her too, and she mentioned I never responded to the e-mail.

Here's a first draft:

W,
I've missed you like crazy ever since you've been gone, but haven't told you until now.

It's because I'm doing this thing called DB'ing, and I have to act happy and not say ILU or I miss you, and show you that I'm fine on my own.

OK, just kidding, but I need help on this. She also told me I could text her over the weekend, but "nothing mushy, like I Love You. I know you wouldn't say that anyway". There was an awkward moment, and I think it may be time for the ILU soon.

Talked with my sponsor about how W doesn't like to be mushy, as she calls it. Isn't that opposite of most women? He said "not women who have been hurt." True, I think.