Things are settling down...not sure that's good!

[Amy M]

I read that article too...I think H's affair is the accidental version, and then he adopted the #4 excuse for the A...that his W wasn't the right one for him or he never would have cheated. I'm concerned, however, that OW might be the spider!!! I guess if she is, then she'll be done with him once he D's me. Oh well, time will tell.

There's been no more mention of the D settlement. I think for him, financially, he thinks it's better to wait, so, he'll just keep putting it off until he has to have it. I guess I just don't want it, so, I'm waiting too. Is that wrong? Should I pursue it since he's obviously not interested in coming home?

I also had made it clear that he needed to get his things out of the house over Thanksgiving. He's not mentioned that either...although, he did take all of his clothes a few weekends back. Do I mention that or just let it ride? I guess his stuff is not in my way, and I don't want him to feel like I'm forcing him out, but do you think by not pushing the issue he thinks I'm being wimpy?

Why do I still care what he thinks???

I sent a TM last night to offer to keep the kids on Wed. night. During his grumpy 1 minute phone convo with me last night he indicated that he would try to be back in time on Friday to get the kids since he had a business trip he had to take. I reminded him that I was flying out on Friday early afternoon...he said, "I know, I know." So, after I thought about it, I figured he could leave earlier on Thursday morning for his trip if the kids stayed with me and he didn't have to take them to school on Thursday.

So, I sent a TM that said..."boys can stay here wed. night if that would help you." I got no response. That kind of irritated me. So, this morning at 7:45 I sent a TM that said, "I don't know if you are getting my TM's since you don't acknowledge them. But, I just wanted to wish you good luck on your inspection this afternoon." So, about 30 minutes later he sends this: "Sry. Already in bed when u txt. Had 2 run today then meet security @ bldg 2 get alarm working before inspection. As for trip, I will leave after I drop the boys at school. Thx 4 offer and luck with pharmacy board."

I should really just leave things alone! I should make him ask me if he needs help, right? I shouldn't be offering to keep the boys on his nights. I'm afraid he wouldn't ask. He is dead set on proving he's the best dad in the whole wide world. I should just stand back and let him prove it!

One day this will get easier...that's what a friend told me recently!!!