As I posted to you last week, I think you need to be very careful to communicate ANY of this now. She will likely feel overwhelmed, and hopeless. If you eventually need to know all of this, or even most of it, then let that happen in due course. But right now, all she needs to hear from you is "I need you to come back fully to our marriage, and work on it with me, and be transparent with me so that I can learn to trust you again."
If you spell out A-Z, or even A-L, she's gonna freak out. Just let her know the few non-negotiable A-B-Cs, and let the rest evolve naturally.
