After he got home from work yesterday, he was laying face down on floor, watching TV with our son. Said he was feeling sick because he has not been eating well lately. I think he was sick with a case of the guilts!
Puppy, I like your idea of setting boundaries, it is a lot more empowering than saying nothing at all. The problem is, if I say "I can't live in a marriage where my husband..." he will just say "are you asking me to move out?" and then he could very well do that. Not what I want right now, but a few more weeks of this and I will be showing him the door out.
I was excited and thought it was a good sign that he recently moved back in the bedroom with me. Now I no longer want to sleep in the same bed with him.
Triste,
Yes, adultery can weigh VERY heavily on a wayward spouse, physically and emotionally. I swear I saw my wife age 2-3 years in just three months, right before my eyes.
If your husband says "Are you asking me to move out?" you simply repeat the "I cannot live in a marriage ..." line, and tell him HE has some decisions to make. Do not let him put it back on you, and let him make you issue an ultimatum. He may get frustrated with your repetition, but too bad.
I hate to say it, but I'd also suggest that you get a full-panel STD test immediately, if you had unprotected sex with your husband.
Setting boundaries is for YOUR emotional health, Triste -- it's not for him. You're basically saying "I can't tell you what to DO, but I can absolutely tell you what kind of marriage I am willing to live in."
Oh, and tell him that your patience isn't without limits -- but don't give him any deadlines.
