Hi sh-
How are you??? I have missed you and your sound advice around here. It is nice to hear that you are in a good place regardless of what your H does. I remember getting to that point and how freeing it felt.

Hey peace-
This life of limbo isn't always easy. Sometimes it doesn't take much to throw you off balance. I am trying to find my center again and do some more work on me.

My H sent me a text late yesterday afternoon saying that he was having computer problems at his office. I figured he was going to cancel on the C but he did show up. He said he wasn't able to do any work so he might as well come to C. So during C we talked about the dog, My H's business issues and partner problems. H said how he is trying to counsel his partner telling him how what he is doing to his W is wrong. He told him how he is just replacing one set of problems for another and that he needs to figure out what was wrong with his M. My H said he told his partner he needed to communicate with his wife what he has been unhappy about and give her the chance to work on things with him. My H looked at the C and told him that he had learned a thing or two.

We talked about us and how H had closed himself off during the last week. The C let him know that he need to communicate with me even if it is just to let me know that he needs to be alone. Then we talked about how we had been debating the financial issues we would have if we live together. My H made it seem like that we are still working toward living together. I swear his ability to switch gears is making me feel like I am losing my mind.

After C, my H said part of the reason he didn't want to come over this last weekend was because of the dog and he didn't want to deal with what happened. He did come over for a little while last night and he acted like everything was fine with him and with us. He gave me hugs and kisses but I felt somewhat distant from him...maybe that is just what I need to do until things get more settled.