Maybe I should be in piecing part 2?

[Hope4us]

I think you're right WDID. My W has always been that way. I can remember so many times where just about once every 6 months or so that she'd show a moment of weakness and tell me how she REALLY feels.

She would say "I know you don't think I love you, but I do". So I just keep waiting for that moment when she's in a vulnerable place and this all just flows out. Waiting, waiting, waiting.....if we could just get to that place I think we could make some REAL progress.

And I do think she's ashamed. But she's not ready to really let herself admit that yet. Like I posted earlier from the article I read in USA Today....the human mind does funny things when faced with dealing with the pain/harm you've caused people. It's easier to NOT deal with it and possibly have to admit to yourself that YOU F'd up (ok, I paraphrased there).