I really hope it's a tentative stage 3...Last time I talked to Jody she said to consider that we were in stage 1 still because of H's negativity. I actually feel like the extreme negativity is gone now, so yeah it feels like a stage 2 or 3 sort of place. You put it really well.
From my perspective I think I could hold off on an R talk until after the holidays. I would be content until then just plowing forward and hopefully making progress. As long as things seem to be improving, I'm not in a massive rush to define them. I really have changed in the context of the R, and whether H notices or not, I am sure that he notices that things are less contentious between us than they used to be.
My ideal solution to the situation would be for H to just give me a really nice card saying how much he loves me and wants to make things work, thereby opening the door to communication without starting things off with a full-blown R talk. Well we can all dream!
Hope you're doing well today!
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Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
