hi peace- I can understand how torn you are. You want to move on with your life BUT you still want your M and think it could work if your H would give it a chance. When you told your H to file you were grieving the loss of your mom.
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He filed..in june then never answered my L counter petition
I still believe your H filed because he thought it was what you wanted and he was trying to help you get through a tough time. Your H hasn't done much with the D since.
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I realize my chances for Reconciliation are slim ive waited for 21 months here part of me feels if my H wants to return one day, a D wont be the thing to stop him and if it isnt in the cards for us..if our M is over forever then it is in my best interest to get D and get everything legal and also not be responsible for any debt he may have..also to start moving on this D is closure for me I do not want to be M to this man as he is and there is no guarantee he will change in the next year or ever
It sounds like you keep trying to convince yourself that you should go forward with the D and IMO, that is okay if that is what you want. Just remember there is no guarantee that the D will bring closure if it isn't what you truly want. Maybe a legal S would be a better route for now until you are sure.
I remember when I decided to D my first H. It took me a long time to get to the place when I was finally ready but once I was there, I never questioned my decision. Trying to figure this out has got to be tough for you. You don't seem like you are certain that you are ready to make this step but at the same time, you want to move forward.
I don't know how the courts work in your state but I know that my H filed in August of last year and he was able to continue it until September of this year. Are you sure that your L can't continue it for awhile longer?
