It's Tx Mom.. 2nd thread.. trying to hold on...

[TxMomw/2girls]

Thanks Tawnya, Amy, LE, PM, FR, imLin, ST.. and anybody I missed...

Ok Amy to answer your questions... I have seen an attorney and understand my rights but still not what I expected .. I've told my H this as well that he will need to pay more than the courts will make him pay... I travel for my job and sometime next year I would have to change jobs, probably make less money to get out of sales and not travel as much b/c I can't split my weekends every month and still be gone 6-8 days a month on business trips... this mean I have to buy a car, cell phone .. all my expenses in my business are paid for, company car, cell, internet, etc... so enough on this but it will make all this tough to transition on top of going through a Divorce. but who said life is easy... I've been blessed with a great life and with lots of blessings too over the years..

I have looked for other houses in a few other neighborhoods that my kids will still like and in the school district we are in now.. tough time of year but I feel we'd be able to find something so not extremely worried on this...

LE - good point on te 180's ... I know right when he moved out he noticed my 180's with the kids, acting 'as if' and not questioning him as much on what he is doing with kids etc... just 'trusting' him to make the right decisions.. My H and I both work from home so I moved down in his office (the actual office in the room) and I moved the guest bed stuff into my old office which was a bedroom... so my new baby's room is just hers with no guest bed in it... I noticed when I got home Sunday that he had gone in the guest room because the door was open to see what I had done... so I'm GAL and moving on.. rearranging things in the house...

I'm also trying to plan a trip to Austin or LA to visit friends so when I get that coordinated he'll be surprised I'm sure.. I need to get out of town... my C told me too, try to figure out what the shock factor would be to him, what 180 would get him wondering... the only thing would be if I moved, or started dating, that I could think of... although my friend and I have thought of taking golf lessons and a girls golf league.. my H is a big golfer so he'd notice this too..

anyhow, I feel better today... not talking with him yesterday helped and this week I'm really going to detach... of course he didn't call to talk to our daughter so we'll see when he decides to reach out.

you are all the best!!!!