Unexpected dinner invitations - yesterday I had a friend ring me and invite me to dinner yesterday afternoon. a nice surprise.
Little positives - my son is hoping to do ski club, and the (stbx) wife is asking if I want to be a volunteer. This is a big switch from 9 months ago when she was asking the court to take me away from him until he was 18.
distance - I got another email from stbx yesterday, nagging and with a not very nice tone. All of her emails that deal with money issues are like this. Previously I would respond - to her attorney, because I am not allowed to email her back - more ore less immedaitely. Now I don't. I let them slide. She is ticked about money. I see that. I don't take it personally. There is no benefit to me copping a superior attitude and replying with a snide "told ya so!" No benefit at all. She knows. So I am thankful for the patience and distance, that allows me to see this things for what they are.
Thanksgiving - This is a new thing for us. I have the kids for T-giving. No wife. No family nearby - no aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents. We moved away from all of them 2 years ago. So it is time for a new tradition. It's fun coming up with these new things. It's my vocation now - fashioning my new life out of the raw clay. Much "harder" than living on autopilot as in the old days: doing what we always did (go visit mom, go visit MIL, go to sister's house, etc...). Yes I will miss my extennded family, but I've gotta make the best of it! For my kids and for me. My kids will remember this.
