I'm going to add something here since I'm a Two-timer..I finally came to this realization during my son's wedding this past summer when I had to interact with my first ex-wife.
I think just after any divorce that you will think that there is no way that you can ever be civil to an ex-spouse, especially if things were really bad during the divorce process. I discovered that this line of thinking in my case was not correct. I've found that no matter what happened or was said, that after a period of time, even years down the road, that most people can and do get over the hurt and find a way to be civil to one another. Hurt feelings, anquish and pain get better with time. Put those things to the side when dealing with your ex concerning the kids..if you can do this it will be a great gift for your kids and they will learn that out of pain and anger can come peace.
