If you are still questioning if D is the right thing to do, it sounds like you are not ready to move forward with it.
I'm like you and often think the D paperwork will help bring closure. Maybe it will, maybe it won't. But it's hard to imagine that a piece of paper will change the way you feel. Try to find your own closure - unlikely that any help with this will ever come from our H's.
I can't remember - do you have S agreement in place? Do you think you are really at risk financially?
BTW, I still haven't started a new thread... Just living my life day by day, realizing things every now and then, and mostly enjoying the things I have, especially my kids. In a good place for now, and just hoping I can continue to find the positive in all of this. Taking better care of me and doing all the things I've always wanted to do. H is missing out!
