Well we are already Divorced. He said if we both filed it would just wipe out the debts that were set up in the divorce decree. Maybe it would relieve some stress for you both if you did it now and maybe then you could work on you guys...
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Hey you may also want to go to debt counseling together. Make sure it is one that will give you a certificate in case you later decide to file bankruptcy. Maybe all of this will be a dose of reality that your wife needs.
I had this reality but I just don't know that I can count on my "so deep in the fog" ex. Best wishes.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Well, the BK L already has an approved debt counselor; so we will be doing that.
I really don't think that it will change the W as she's filed BK right when I first met her and she doesn't think twice about skipping out on bills. Shoot in the last two months, she's only given me $50.00 for help with the daycare. She said that she would pay that every week.
No, she uses her approx. $250.00 per week to do whatever in the world she wishes. Right now she thinks she's got it made. It'll be interesting to see if the D goes through; what she'll react to when she discovers that she has to take on some of the debt and start paying for the car.
Ex saw everything in the decree, I just don't think he thought it applied to him or would effect him. He was griping about having to pay my additional L costs. I said well you could have said no, but you wanted so badly away from me you would have signed away your mother.
He was like well I don't have it so you can't get it so I guess that is it. Sadly he can't get in trouble for not paying alimony(or maybe not as bad as child support). If he didn't pay child support he could be carted off to jail.
What a pain this all is.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Maybe I just have to realize that I am not the one to teach him a lesson. There are plenty of walls he is going to be hitting soon enough without any help from me.
Time to just think of myself and the kids. I can't count on him.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Kat, Does he pay child support? I saw where you said he didn't pay alimony. I'm so sorry for what you are going through.
It's kind of like when person is on trial for a crime. It seems they have more rights than the victim. Divorce is like a crime in many ways. You have the perpetrator and the victim.
On a side note I had to make sure I was spelling "perpetrator" correctly. This is the definition that they gave for it:
perpetrator - someone who perpetrates wrongdoing
Isn't that very fitting of a WAS!
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
