Thanks for stopping by my thread. Not too much time this morning and I did not read this entire thread, but your first couple of posts.
First off, I admire you for hanging in there for the marriage's and love's sake. I can relate and in my sitch there are three young kids. Your H sounds contolling (like I have been) and closed off emotionally (like I have been). But he sounds like he's well contented by himself and with his business - not like me. It's always frustrating to me to see people in these posts walk away from loving people. Your love will flow to someone who wants it one day soon - I'm sure.
To your current sitch with him, hold your distance. Let him proceed like he wants to (my W wants to move to a D too, and I've finally given into that idea). There will be always time for your H to change his mind during the D proceedings. And I'm sure he knows how you feel about an R without repeating yourself.
