Treese, TOH posted a beautiful posting to you and I couldn't have said it better. It's time for Treese to focus on your family and on you. Your h is still out in la la land and will be there for quite some time. You have to be the strong one here and take care of Treese. There's absolutely nothing you can do for him right now and the worry and anxiety you are experiencing are very normal for the type of situation you've been thrown into.
Treese, I will be very surprised if the judge doesn't advise him to get a second job. The judicial system usually isn't very kind about such things. Your h is just trying on a new mantra, trying to believe everything will be okay....it's called denial. You are the one that is looking at the world through clear glasses and can see the handwriting on the wall. You are the one that is preparing for the fall out and you are the one that is strong and independent and will take care of your family....your h can't see the forest for the trees.
Treese, be kind to yourself....be the best you can be. You and your family will be okay, but it's going to be a rough road to travel for a while, but at the end of the day....all of you are and will continue to be survivors. I truly believe that.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
