Whether or not to check-in with H

[Dawn of Hope]

Wow, Trusting, I had to kind of blink when I read your post about slamming things, because for a while (mostly pre-bomb, but I didn't know about MLC then) my H would periodically comment about me slamming cabinet doors and such when I was doing stuff in the kitchen. Once in a while I did that, but it was much more rare than his comments, and mostly I couldn't figure out what would trigger him saying that! I just thought I was going about my business, putting away dishes, and I wasn't angry at all! And WCW had a similar experience too! <shakes head>

Don't know exactly what to tell you about your dilemma, Trusting, but I would just let him flap in the breeze and think whatever his warped MLC brain tells him to think. Just check and make sure that if viewed objectively, your actions send the message YOU want to send. If he misinterprets them due to his brain being held hostage by the MLC virus, you are not responsible for that.

I think that even if we think they are not looking at what we are doing, GAL, etc. is excellent practice for the time (and it will come sooner or later) when they DO start looking.... Besides, DBing is for the LBS more than it is for the WA, remember. If it results in rejuvenation of the M, that is a bonus, but it is actually for YOU. Make YOURSELF closer to what you want to be, and you will benefit, whether your S wises up and rejoins you or not.

Peace and blessings,
Dawn